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Oh it's hurt, I know! U have to keep telling yourself to moved on, that u can do better. Ur just feeling lonely right now. The hurt will stop in time when you follow this steps
1. keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls and no any social media connection, you don't have to stop talking forever, but you do need to cut all communication for as long as it takes to get completely over ex. If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you are reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with practical aspects of things like moving out, reading papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings.
2. Remove painful memory triggers. There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex––a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Having these items around can make it harder for you to recover from a breakup. Remove all of the things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. It can work wonders to clear your space of all these triggers.
If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, there's nothing wrong with keeping it. But for the time being, try putting it away until you have gotten over the relationship.
3. Get out and do things. After a relationship ends, it is okay to have some time to yourself at home. Just make sure that you get back out in the world after you have processed your feelings. Make plans, go out with your friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel better. Getting out and doing things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social network after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on with your life.
Don't feel like you need to go out with other people all of the time. Take yourself out to do things and enjoy the freedom to do what you want. Go to your favorite coffee shop, go shopping, or take yourself on a mini-vacation.
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