
There are some common problems that are often revealed when you write down a list of what you are looking for in a woman
the first is a case of fundamental lifestyle incompatibility, which happens when what you want is diametrically opposed to who you are.
if you are hoping for a bikini in top shape out every day to keep herself in shape and your only exercise comes from jumping to conclusions, you are going to have a very hard time finding someone who is ambitious and motivated isn't going to be interested in a slacker whose days are spent at a minimum wage, minimum responsibility job and whose nights consist of marathoning supernatural reruns.
The problem with this outlook is that women aren’t there to make you a better person. Going into a relationship hoping to fill a hole in your life or otherwise change who you are is setting you and your partner up for heartbreak and misery. It’s incredibly unfair to expect someone to take responsibility for your life when they’re likely having a hard enough time handling their own. If you’re going into a relationship looking for someone to fix a problem in your life – whether it’s that you’re shy, you’re repressed and need to be loosened up, you want someone to help you make up for lost time or otherwise validate your existence – you’re not looking for a relationship, you’re looking for a caretaker.
You don’t want to go into dating looking for someone to complete you, you want someone who can compliment you.
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